I was talking to a mother of young children the other day who likened having children to suddenly becoming bi-polar. “One minute you never knew there was such love in you and in the next moment you’re screaming.”
I told her when I see a pregnant woman who is getting ready to have her first child I think silently and somberly to myself, “Wow. You have no idea you are getting ready to be broken in half.” After having a child, all women suddenly look like superheroes. They all did this? They all went through this?
At a party once, I told someone that since having children I forgave my mother for a lot. My mother overheard me and said, “Well, you never told me!” Well, here it is Mom. I forgive you. Now please forgive me for being a pain in the ass. It’s really not fair that once we get our children civilized they leave.
I often ask for titles for my paintings on Facebook and Instagram, and while many offered up lovely, sweet titles, I was really looking for something that captured the whole spectrum of the experience. The whole bi-polarity of it all. The exquisite pain and beauty of being broken wide open. And it is very similar to one of my mantras: surrender, and the title is: “Embrace.”
Thank you Samone Weissman for naming. Prints available here.
Much love to all mothers and to all who ever had to put up with a mother,